WAW Said She's Done-pt.4- What Happened?

[OneDay]

That I'm not going to attack her about it. That I'm not going to be angry, bitter or start any name calling.

I want to calmly tell her that I know what she is doing. How I think it $ucks for everyone with all the lying and sneaking around. I know it her choice and nothing I say will change that.

I really don't understand why telling her I know what she is doing is so wrong. What am I missing. How is everyone saying to be quite and just accept the fact she's lying and sneaking around. The boys see it too. they are not stupid. They ask me what's going on and where mom is. What time is she coming home. Why did mom come home last night etc. Now I'm the one here making up stories for her, lying to my boys for her. I'm sorry I must be missing something here