I love her... but she doesn't - Desperate

[melissag]

I think we have all felt like this is just too much at one point or another. This has easily been the hardest thing I have ever done in my life.

I can't emphasize enough how much you need to focus on yourself and not your W right now. Focusing on her is not only making things worse with her, but it is making things worse for you.

I KNOW that you are in serious pain, and I know (I have been there!) that it is incredibly difficult not to be consumed with this and trying to figure out how to get your W to stay. But listen to the wise folks here who have traveled this road before you - you've got to focus on you.

What are you doing to GAL, that has NOTHING to do with your W?

This is your key to survival.

I don't think you should share your C's idea with your W. (Is your W even seeing a C right now?) Your W has been very clear with you about what she wants and doesn't want. Are you really going to ask her to go to C for 6-8 weeks, and then go with you? I think that asking her to do this will only show her that you are not listening to (or believing, or accepting) what she is telling you.

You will be OK . . . I promise. Just make sure you are taking care of you.