I'm not in active 'save-my-marriage' mode but when things happen worth mentioning I'll still post them here.
Tonight my H tried calling about some documents he needs copies of. He very easily could have texted or emailed. I ignored the call and returned it later. He started off asking about the docs but proceeded to chat my ear off about this potential job change he's considering. It was really nice to hear him so excited about something. And this particular job will be great for him to have time for our son regardless of what happens between us. It will also mean he doesn't have to move to another state. I couldn't have asked for a better solution to this job thing that's been like a 100lb weight on my back for the past 4 years. I can finally stop feeling guilty that having to live near my older kids dad isn't holding my H back. Now he can be near his son and work a job he will love.
I've been on loops before so I can't help but laugh at how he can go from absolutely despising me, claiming papers are filed, not answering my calls, sending vile hateful emails to me, threatening a costly and painful custody battle, etc one week ago to the opposite extreme, calling me of all people to talk about this to. Last week his mom was his best friend in the world because she's funding his legal bills and is supporting his hatred of me. This week he's walking me through all the details of the new position and mentioned he hasn't told his mom anything about the new job.
Believe none of what you hear, half of what you see, and remember that how you (or your spouse) feels today might not be how they feel tomorrow.
Now it's back to being supportive of him from afar while I go about my life without him. The ball stays in his court to figure his own life out while I do fun things like snowboarding on Monday!!
