Betsey, I am so bummed about Dre being traded. Then again, he wasn't doing us much good riding pine for two months anyway. Do you think it was a power struggle and he refused to apologize?
And speaking of childish behavior is such a great segue to my H.
I think you are right, 3. He doesn't know what to do anymore. I am no longer trying to keep him in my good graces and he doesn't like it.
Just for fun, I'll tell you guys what this behavior reminds me of. (Except in the opposite direction.)
H and I were friends for 4 years before we started dating. For about two of those years, he pestered me to date him. I refused. Then at one point I said I would consider it, maybe. He tried all different kinds of tactics. Super nice, begging, threatening to no longer be my friend, threatening to get back together with his ex girlfriend to make me jealous, the list goes on. So I guess his MO is to keep trying different things to get what he wants. Too bad he didn't try different things to make our M work. Sigh.
Anyway. I don't think that going to a bball game is confusing for me, I just flat out don't want to hang out with him. On top of that, I don't believe that he has any interest in hanging out with me; rather, us all going together is somehow self serving for him - if I had to guess, it would be because he doesn't want the kids to be mad at him/think D was his idea/insert selfish other selfish reason here.
I'm not trying to look for ways to bash my H. And I wish he was different. It's just that each time he communicates with me, there is nothing genuine or caring about it. There is always an ulterior motive. I think it's time I accept that. I have bought into it for far too long, with the hanging out and being friends and ML. So done with that.
OK, Betsey, I think I will use your suggested response. Though I may cut it even shorter.
First I have to call my L to see whether I can put down a deposit to order my new convertible.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
