Four weeks in, hopeful but just starting!

[KGirl]

More interesting things from H yesterday....
-received texts during the day about the women's Olympic hockey game and the score (which I had not mentioned any interest in). Haven't gotten any texts from H since BD that weren't purely logistical until now.
-Earlier in the week I posted on FB about how excited I was for floral design class on Thursday. Hadn't mentioned it to H, when I came home yesterday H asked about it and when it was. When I came home H asked to see the arrangement I made.
-H asked me to help him find something he lost and made cute comments (that he knows were cute!) about the thing hiding and how he made it disappear
-H came into "my" bathroom this morning to comment on the weather and that it hadn't snowed yet

But... then he didn't come home yet from work this evening and no word from him. Who knows. It's hard for me to accept he actually may go through with this because I don't know how someone could be so nice/friendly and still be planning to D in some other part of his brain.

The L meeting today was depressing. Legal advice was fine (essentially rec'd that if I were to move out, best to file for S/D so that mortgage obligations, equity owed,etc. were all spelled out and documented and I wouldn't be held liable). But the L felt the need to add some life advice that wasn't exactly appreciated:
-"If this is happening so soon in your marriage, it doesn't seem like there's a foundation for a long term relationship anyway" (n/m the fact we dated for 10 years I guess...)
-"So he's infatuated with someone else... there are going to keep being people that pop up in his life, who's to say he won't keep chasing them?"
-"It takes two people to work on a marriage. If he's refused to do counseling or anything else, nothing will change, so best to move on and take action"

UGH. Hard to get those thoughts out of my head. I liked the guy's legal approach, but don't know if I can work with him given his other comments. He did say he's pro-marriage but seemed to want to play a kindly father role or something.