WAW seems confused

[ManHope]

Thanks Trc, I shouldn't worry about this and just focus on what we were already doing. Not more but not less.

So, since the goal of DB is for the D not to happen, are we to assume we hope for the WAW to reach to us at some point in the future instead of us ever reaching for a possible chance to demonstrate true repentance by confessing our wrongs and asking for forgiveness (Not reconciliation but just forgiveness)? All by making it clear we don't expect a response or that we don't deserve it.

I know my initial attempts before DB where to beg, plead, try to tell her she was making a mistake, etc...All these always caused her to cry and get upset and of course she wasn't going to forgive and react positively as I was telling her she was wrong. I have not tried to ask for forgiveness. Just forgiveness. I know both Gary Smalley and Gary Chapman push the "confession" without telling your spouse she is wrong or pressuring her to forgive.
What I found interesting by exploring those Authors is that Smalley quotes the DB book about not doing "more of the same" -- So I know there is some influence there. Thoughts?

Also, have you heard about the term "closed spirit?"