I won't give up II

[BrightFuture]

NLT, your H is lost and looking for things that would make him feel better. He probably thinks that filing for separation will do just that. When he finds out that this will not resolve his issues, he will lose interest. This is just my guess, based on what you said about him not doing research on the subject. He just wants to take “some” action. Yes, there might be some pressure from OW, but when it comes to actually doing the work, my guess is he will drag his feet. He is just all over the place right now, not knowing what he wants.

You are right to keep an eye on the money, so OW doesn’t get a hold on it. This would be my worry too, if I knew there was an OW. In my case it is about the vacation home.

I would suggest to wait him out, no mentioning of paper work. Let him do all the work.

I hear you about wanting to be back to the times before the BD. I think there was a discussion on Wonka’s thread about time being still for MLCer. The time has been still for me too. I cannot believe it’s been 19 months, and I’m still living in the past, trying to make sense of what happened on that day of BD.