Separated and on a Walk

[paul19510]

Keep the focus on you and what you can change. Go back and take out all references to her, see what you're left with.

Why did your W go to such lengths to hide smoking from you? Since she was OK with others knowing it must be something specific to you.

Are her actions driving you to make this filing or is this your choice. You seem to be unclear on that.

I sense a lot of anger. Be angry, it's OK but when it clears, see where you are.

hi bug. I am angry and hurt. I believe that I want something thst doesn't exist. I will refocus on myself. I felt that filing was needed to keep out joint debts from growing. We are already in trouble with debts. I believe in being honest. Being lied to and bad mouthed to my kids is not something thst I can work with. Filing will not stop that. It does however protect me and my kids from incurring further debt. I have been told by more thsn one source ththat w does not respect me and is not interested in being a W In the romantic partner sense. I do want that.

I agree that my decision to move forward may have been hastened by several factors. I don't know where all of this will go. I know I have to keep learning and growing.