Do NOT confront. Nothing good can come from it. I backslipped and confronted when I thought my WAW was going to re-engage OM. Big mistake. She wants out badly.
Best advice I can give is to BACK OFF. Give space and do not pressure her. Do your 180's and GAL. Work on yourself. Really, it doesn't matter if you think it's a dealbreaker or not right now, you are in no position to do anything but break everything on the worst possible terms. It is incredibly hard, but you pretty much have to accept that this M is done right now, and you maybe have a chance for a new R way, way, way down the road when your W is more secure (and not pressured) and you are more attractive to her (and right now, you're not) Stop worrying about WAW, and how you look at her. DETACH. Unhitch your wagon from her crazy train and get yourself back on an even keel.
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Are you feeling Ok etc. She is very negative and turns most things I say into a Negative. We have short talk, more about the kids or dogs than anything. But no real conversation. I listen to her when she venting and I validate. Neither one of use bring up the D or R.
Stick to this. This will likely be as good as it gets for a long while.
Trust me on this. You don't care about OM, A or any of that right now. Now work on YOU until you actually believe it, because that's the kind of confidence you will need.
