Magic, it is a good sign that he is realizing how good he had it with you and he wants to try. You do sound desperate to speed up the process and “make” him work on reconciliation. You cannot force it. Stop, be patient. Yes, it might take 2 more years. Would you rather have your H back in two years or make him run away for good?

I like mj’s advice to get away from him for a while. Let him figure himself out, don’t push, let him lead the way.

M:50
H:52
S28 (my S from previous marriage)
M:17 + 3
BD: 06/12
S: 06/12 - H works in another state