own buz 22:mediation to reconcilliation, hopefully

[mj0221]

I'll give it a go Magic.
First, I don't post much and definitely not recently but wanted to say what I see in your postings ( this coming from someone who has only followed your thread, never posted to you.)

I see desperation oozing from your every post. It's getting worse as time goes by and from what you are writing that you are saying to your SO you are trying to get him to "see" this reconciliation thing on your terms = controlling.....just my opinion. From what I have learned this goes against every divorce busting we have all been taught.

I THINK many people have given you so much great advice you haven't followed that they don't have anything more to add and possibly don't want to be questioned on. I see a lot of twisting in your words. You make it sound like you don't come across as caring what he does yet you are completely obsessed and desperate.

I will be honest, you took what the mediator said and ran with it. A mediator though from my understanding, is not a counsellor. You are trying to force things too much with him.

He knows how good he's got it with you as far as a business aspect. Do you think he is going to take a chance on risking losing your help on that end? Possibly look at why he won't commit to the relationship. Is it his issues, is it yours, is he afraid telling you it's completely done and over for fear you won't help anymore with the business?

With him not committing to anything ( business split, house split, relationship, counseling, etc) I would certainly be taking a second look at my future.

I think you should take some time AWAY from him, vacation etc for a few weeks. Not talk to him and see how it goes.