LFW-I totally agree with you, thanks for your post

wbw-I'm sorry that your S has drug on so long.

Labug-It's tough because the kids are so far apart in age. H's visits confuse my D and I, but S loves the family time.

When H first left, we had a schedule. I will definitely be getting back to that as it helps me answer "when is dad going to come over again" and I don't have to worry about him dropping in unexpected/unannounced.

It seems he really wants to spend his days here and his nights??...That seems like cake eating to me.

Me:33 H:35
M: 12 years
D-15 S-6
Bomb: 6-2013
OW: 11/2013
Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair
Kids and I moved back in 12/2013
H moved out 2/2014