Groov, thanks for checking in! Well I thought the D would be done by now, I think I mentioned previously that we met, went through the Decree and marked it up together and agreed we would both sign when it was revised. That was about two weeks ago and I was supposed to get the revised paperwork early this week to sign.
Two days ago W sent an email and decided she wanted to add 35k "credit card debt" to it that she thinks I owe her. I called her and asked what she was referring to. It's a long story, but she had accrued over 80k in credit card debt without my knowledge. She received an inheritance and paid the debt off with most of it, then gave me the remainder to hold to pay the income taxes. She did this because she was afraid that if she kept it she would spend it and there would be nothing to pay the taxes with. That amount was around 70k, so now she thinks I owe half of it to her. I sent her an itemized list of what the 70k was spent on- taxes, tuition for D19, a car for D16, etc. The purchases were all things we had agreed to go 50-50 on (except the taxes which were 100% on her due to the inheritance), so after deducting her share of everything I owe her 8k plus she is due another 10k out of an UGMA fund (another long story regarding how we agreed to split college costs). I sent her detailed calc's on all of this, but she refuses to even discuss it. I tried calling her twice yesterday to review it with her, then she sent a text that basically said "we can't agree so we need to let the professionals deal with it". IE, she thinks we need to let the lawyers fight it out. I texted back and told her that all I am asking is that if she doesn't agree with my calc's, then explain to me why. I told her I'm willing to discuss it. She replied back that she wanted to talk to her L first.
So that's where things are, STUCK AGAIN! UGH! You know, I have a friend that kept telling me "don't believe it's done until you have the signed papers in your hand" but I kept telling her "oh no, we're really getting along great and are having no problems with the D!" Well she was right!
Other than that speed bump everything is good
Sorry to hear you're heading towards D too I think in my case it's the best thing for both W and me, hopefully it'll work out that way for you too.
I think in my case it's the best thing for both W and me, hopefully it'll work out that way for you too.
