I just wanted to add, similar to LFW, have the family nights with him only if it's good for you. If it's too confusing and brings up too much hurt, shelve it for now.

If it's confusing for you, you know it must be for the kids.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss