So I was going to stick with the LRT but during my counseling session yesterday my counselor suggested I bring up this topic with my WAW. Basically my wife and i had had a conversation several weeks ago about if she felt 'safe' talking to me about in depth subjects.

Like I wasn't trying to solve her problems, I wasn't critical of her speaking about a certain subject, basically that she felt safe she could openly share with me. My wife said yes she felt fine. So the counselor stated it seems odd if that is really true that I am so left in the dark as to what my wife is thinking.

So last night I asked her if she did indeed feel safe talking to me why don't we have more in depth conversations. She reiterated that she did feel safe and really had nothing to talk about. Pretty much a dead end.

So then i snoop a bit and read a portion of a converation with a friend of hers. In it she calls me 'The Crazy Guy Who Lives Here'. She goes on to say that 'the crazy guy got mad that i dont want to have in depth discussions with him, i don't even want to have clipped conversations with him'. I wasn't mad, more sad, I didn't say anything when she told me she didn't have anything to talk about....I just walked away.

So anyway, the conflict in ideas from the counselor versus the DB principles....in this case I should have stuck with the DB idea of the LRT. So back to that. Just a glimpse into the life of a 'crazy guy'.

I am crazy i think because I am reading self help books and against us getting a divorce. I am kind of amazed at how little this situation compares to our past disagreements. No yelling, no snide remarks, not much instigating of conversation about R by me. Huge differences but apparently not quite enough to break through the wall she has built.

So back to LRT I go smile

me 41 w43
married 20 years
BD 10/10/13 ILYBNILWY....
4 kids, 21,18,8,6