Hi all Just an update I guess. Any advice from people is greatly appreciated too. Feel like in drowning sometimes. He is contacting me a little more, but only about the children, and only ever by text message. My parents took is away for the weekend last week to the beach and he kept texting, asking how they are, and for photos. If he cares do much, why is he never seeing them when we are home? When he does come home, he walks in, totally makes himself at home. Helps himself to the fridge, showers etc. but he hasn't stayed here in early 2 months. He is still technically paying for it (his money still goes to the joint account so I am just paying for things as normal) but he likes to remind me at times that it is MY house. If it's MINE, why doesn't he pack up his crap, give me the keys and leave properly?
He hasn't told the children anything, they think he is at work all the time. The younger 2 but it, but the eldest knows something is up. I don't know what to tell get and doesn't want to tell them anything. I find that very hard, as their emotions go up and down and I get to deal with the fall out alone.
I am trying hard to GAL. I have joined a gym, started playing sport again and been out with friends. I don't contact him unless he contacts me, so I got a sitter the other night when I went out. The kids told him and he told me next time to get him to babysit. I don't like the idea of that. Why should I tell him my plans when I don't even know where he is staying or who with.
It feels like he is happy with the current situation. He can leave and be 'single' and responsibility free, see the kids once a week and just play happy families. He hasn't told anyone what he is doing, no one in his family or friends who have known both of us. So when he is here and puts pics of the family on Fb, everything looks great. It's so weird. What does he want? He says he doesn't want me, and he won't touch me, looks at me with these cold hard eyes. He will talk about his work, the gym, his interests but never asks how I am. I have lost over a stone and he apparently hasn't noticed. If he is so sure about this, like he says he is, why won't he just commit one way or another? Either agree to talk and try to work it out or actually move, pack his stuff and leave. We can go to mediator and get it all officialky sorted out, rather than this weird limbo we are in right now.
I am trying to leave it to him, he started this, he can make the next move. But it's so hard!
