My IC sent me some reading material from ACOA (adult children of alcoholics) and on co-dependency... I could relate to these characteristics -judging one'self -over reacting -seeking approval/affirmation and -loyalty
In the co-dependency section -self worth depends on external sources -others wants/needs come first -not trusting your own decisions or experiences -guilt, shame and self degradation -mildest of criticisms causes extreme reactions or hurt feelings -fear of abandoment -desire to change but fear of change.
"Co-dependents will endure intense pain and abuse because they fear losing their partner or being alone"
"A co-dependent is willing to settle for peace at any price, including their own self worth"
Luckily, it also said that co-dependency can be overcome!
BD-Aug 2009 OW Confirmed H moves out Dec 2009 D filed by H-Mar 2010 H asks to come home April 2011 BD AGAIN 1-15-2014! H seeing FOW! H ran away again! 1-18-2014
