ok... I am too becoming those things. I like my new perspective (it takes care of ME!! new 180). I am not mind-reading anymore, I ask questions and HEAR the answers (even if I don't like them). Not controlling the outcome and being careful not to manipulate too. I too am a work in progress. Still making errors, but am able to "catch" them before or.. at least realize 'after'.

However...

both my h and I are "stuck" believing that the level of our intimacy is special & rare. Our mediator put this in our head recently & h is even reiterating how he fears he would NEVER be able to be like that with someone else. He says that its likely that 50% of marriages have what we have.

So... i wonder, is it really true? possible? or just different.

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)