Pud, I think it's a good first step to suggest splitting some of the finances and see how he reacts. If something isn't working, try something different.
They all seem to think that if they are moving out and/or are getting a divorce, that the LBS will take them to the cleaners. That is not always the case...but that's what they think. Most likely, in their minds, they probably would do it...but who knows what they think from one minute to the next.
BTW, glad to have you back posting.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
