WR, The problem, as I see it is that your h is trying to beat you down into agreeing to whatever he wants. The problem is that he doesn't want to work w/the lawyers to get things done. Guess what? He knows exactly what he is doing to you and he doesn't care just as long as he gets you to throw your hands up and say I'll give you whatever you want to just go away and leave me along.
If he calls or texts you again, don't respond, just print the texts out and give them to your lawyer. It's time to go NC as much as possible unless it's about the boys.
The more you try to rationalize w/him, the more access he has to you and what you are thinking...please stop trying to negotiate w/him...it won't work at this time and let the lawyers do their jobs.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
