The first part of your post was positive and shows how far you've come.
I feel like dropping the rope means to stop pursuing. Stop asking questions/trying to control and just live your life. I think you have technically dropped the rope in many ways. It seems to me like you've reached a new level of detachment. You still love and care about your H, but you aren't riding his rollercoaster and you want to increase your personal growth and independence.
In some ways I associate dropping the rope and the feeling of throwing my hands up in the air giving up.
It's a mixed bag of feelings: Like good riddance, weight off my shoulders, but also a loss.
I miss my best friend, too. I miss the person that used to take such good care of the kids and I.
Maybe I'm wrong about the rope dropping definition, bring on the vets!
Me:33 H:35 M: 12 years D-15 S-6 Bomb: 6-2013 OW: 11/2013 Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair Kids and I moved back in 12/2013 H moved out 2/2014