Looking for opinions on GAL activities. OK, first off, GAL is for me and my future, regardless of with whom. Got it. But at the same time, there is that "being the guy only a fool would leave" thing. So some GAL activities may be more appropriate than others. For example, drinking at strip clubs is a GAL activity that would be in clear conflict with "being the guy..." so that's easy. But knowing that you can only do so many GAL activities, is it important that they fit into the set of things that W would value, or might even want to participate in some day if R ever happened? In my case, I'm considering a GAL activity that W could never participate in (a language thing), and wondering if I should spend my time elsewhere. Again, no confusion about GAL being for me, just a question of whether particular activities that may be of interest to W would be better candidates. Or would that perhaps end up looking manipulative?
