I hear what you are saying about dating. I struggle with this as well. I don't want to date anyone but my wife BUT I admit the feeling I get from other women on these sites is a real ego boost. Ego boost leads to confidence, confidence leads to better self-esteem, self-esteem leads to the feeling you can handle anything that comes your way and be the man you were born to be, which would help you, in an ironic way, to continue the LRT. So, to me, the only way to heal yourself from the pain caused by a woman is not other activities, engulfing yourself in work, going out with the boys, those are all distractions. It is the admiration and appreciation that you can only receive from another woman that will give you the confidence and self-esteem you need as a male. Just my thinking.
The LRT preaches going out and meeting people but surely you will also be meeting other women. What happens when the temptation is there? In such a fragile state from being rejected for so long you will probably accept any outside offer. How does that affect the LRT? Help? Hurt? This is what I struggle with and so I'm just inclined to stay at home.
I certainly don't blame you for engaging in sexting with that other woman. You felt your M was over. Along came a woman that appreciated you for who you were and showed you acceptance. This is what u needed internally and you showed momentary weakness. I think that's normal and you should not beat yourself over it. My wife told me to go out and bang other women. I'm still married if just on paper only. If you get approval is it still cheating? I didn't, but not because i'm nobler or stronger than anybody else. I think if I got the opportunity I would've "jumped" on it
Also if this OM knows your wife is married and STILL engaging in sexual relations with her, this makes him a willing accomplice in Home Wrecking and I have no respect for people like that.
Me 43 W 43 S 10 (Special Needs) M: 14 yrs T: 18 yrs Bomb: 09/16/12 Filed for D: WHO KNOWS???