She did tell m that I should tell and show my H my hurt. That has not worked so well so far so, I will refrain.
Did you ask for a full explanation of this? I would. Did she mean boundaries?
I don't think being a victim and repeating over and over "You hurt me" is constructive but learning why you hurt and setting boundaries that protect you is helpful.
I think you also have to figure out what "not worked" means to you as well as what something working looks like.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
