Still Together & Trying To Work It Out!

[Azagtoth]

Don't we all. ILYBINILWY is simply ridiculous, but we all hear it. WAS's confuse "puppy love" for "being in love", but puppy love is temporary limerence. WAS's will abandon everything they used to hold dear just to pursue an idea of love (permanent limerence) that doesn't even really exist. So they hook up with an OP (or dream of it) and they feel that puppy love and it convinces them that they were RIGHT, there really is true love! But it doesn't last, and usually by the time they figure that out they've left a trail of wreckage in their wake. That's why we work on us, because we can't fix them. They have to make that journey alone.

AS,

Thanks for the response and I see your point; will keep those to books to myself.

Yea..."in-love"...like I said; I hate that term. You either love or you don't. She already admitted she still has love for me so...

The good thing, as mentioned previously, is our therapist challenged this thought to her. She agreed; the initial infatuation doesn't last like that and my wife needed to take a hard look at initial infatuation (Love) in the early marriage versus committed love in a LTR. I know it confused my wife and made her take a step back & ponder; little truth dart never hurts. She couldn't give an answer at the time so I am quite sure this will be one of the main topics of discussion next session along with "what does a healthy relationship / marriage look like" the therapist asked a couple sessions ago. Therapist already has my answer and told me "you get it"! Now she has to work on her!


Azagtoth