Here again, afraid it may be too little too late

[melissag]

Maybe I missed something, and no disrespect to Mr. Bond, but I disagree with this:

If you start telling your friends, they aren't going to want to be around you because it makes them feel awkward. Then you'll be left more lonely than you are now.

I think it's really important to have someone (preferably more than one someone) to talk to . . . vital, even. The key is to know which of your friends have earned the right to hear about it. Once you select those friends that you know you can trust, you will figure out which ones are really going to be there for you, and which ones maybe feel too uncomfortable to talk about it. The friends who don't really want to talk about it are still important, though, because you can GAL with them, without talking about your H or your sitch - it provides a nice break for you.

I definitely agree that H's sister (or any other family of his) is NOT the person you should be talking to about your sitch. That puts her in an awkward position, and you don't want anything getting back to your H. It will not help your cause at all to talk to his family.

I also think that C and a DB coach are a good idea. And, you have your friends here to talk to! So keep posting.

Also, I am a little concerned that it seems you are isolating yourself, which will only make things worse. This is when you NEED to be going out and GAL. If you are a runner, GO RUN!!! I can't even tell you how much physical exercise has saved me through this ordeal. Running is the best - you really could use those endorphins!

I know you are not motivated. I wasn't either. You need to FORCE yourself to GAL. Get together with friends. Get our of your house!! I promise, it will help.