Have you read up on LRT yet? You can probably find it online by googling, if your book hasn't arrived yet.
Do not ignore your W on matters regarding the children.
How did you respond to the emails you quoted above? And can you see how the LRT will help you in this sitch? Your W feels trapped. Give her the space she wants.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14