Below are a couple emails from my W from 10 days ago ...today I'm wondering how our family vacation will go ...we leave tomorrow for the carribean for a week. Happy to hear anyone's thoughts on emails, vacation, etc ... She has only had 10 days of "space" but so far she seems in much better mood. We have not talked about the D or our R. I am still going to try to give her space on this trip even though it's with the family/kids. I hope the DB book arrives today so I can find a secluded place on the beach and read it.
"You have always felt you own me and I need to do what you want me to do. You really aren't capable of letting me be my own person. This isn't a recent phenomenon, it's been going on forever. I've lived my live the way you dictated it. I don't and can't do it anymore. I don't know why you can't accept that. The recent bs happened because you feel you are losing total control over me and you hate that and can't accept that. And that is the problem."
"Yes, I am losing it. I can't take your control anymore. Even with this whole affair thing. It's so ridiculous. You need to let go of me."
"Living with you is so shitty. You can't accept I'm my own person and let me live my own life. You at first said you'd move out then you won't. Then you said I could move out. The only way I can get away from you is divorce. Otherwise you just can't leave me alone."
Me: 47 Her: 45 M 18 years T 22 years S-6 D-9 Separate rooms 1/5/14 Wife filed for divorce 2/5/14
