W said its over - Said I can't change her mind

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Sandi2,
I have shortened my post by including the first paragraph only. I received DR in the mail yesterday and will begin reading today. I learned of LRT on this site and have been following it since Monday.

I returned home yesterday for the first time in two days to find she has moved half of her clothes and her futon out of our apartment. I'm more in a "shocked" state of mind at this point.

My W and I have been married 5 months and been together for 4 years. My second M her first. Im 32 she is 26, no kids involved. last year we lived apart due to my job location, 7 hours apart. I moved back to Tennessee when she couldn't get a job near me. she applied for one job and didn't get the job in Missouri. after that happened she told me to stay in Missouri and not to move back to her. we were engaged at this time. She didn't want me resenting her for moving back and changing careers. She told me she was done trying in the relationship and getting nothing in return. she even told me if I moved back to Tennessee she would never talk to me again. She then told me when I got a job in TN that it was time for her to support me and be by my side like before. I moved back in June and we got married in Sept. We never had any issues until around the start of Nov. Jan. 5 my W came to me and said she would be staying with a friend for a few days as things were not good with our marriage. She was right, things were miserable. Around the start of November my job began to get the best of me and put it before my W and took her and our marriage for granted. I was in a completely new job and field, went from being assistant college basketball coach to head high school coach, very different positions. I entered a crazy situation with a lot of up and downs and my job wore me down. I stopped socializing and working out tow things that we important to me and my W. There nights I would sleep on the couch and we wouldn't talk much if at all. basically three days would be good and three days would be bad. Our house was not a fun place to be to say the least. During this time I said some things in haste and anger that I should not have said. My W became very sarcastic in talking to me and I couldn't handle it. It would just make me more mad and frustrated with her. I was a bad H for two months, I didn't live up to my end of the deal to make my wife feel like the most important person in the world. I let her down.

my W returned home Jan 21-25 but then left after we had an argument in a bar where I tried to stop her from getting away from me. I was thrown out of the bar by the bouncers after the scene. It was not a good deal. It was not an abusive situation by any means but one she now feels like could possibly happen again.