Nit84. In response to your question. . In the beginning I did stay and listen and try to validate. Now very rarely does ny h say anything worth responding to. I have donethelot if work over the past 5 months. I do stay and listen to the point where his anger spewing becomes mean and unproductive (insulting my appearance, religion and family) or just plain random (I am not allowed to pet his dog that I take care og 75% Of the time) those are the times I tune him out.

I wish I had more opportunities to validate but we are not there right now.

Thanks for your input. I will try to find your thread to see where you are in this journey.

Tough- sorry for the "all about me post"

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15