I am not up to date on your stitch, and I am not saying a LBH should not address issues. But you need to go in with your eyes wide open, b/c if you don't know what you're doing, you can make matters worse. That's probably hard to imagine right now, but it's true.
DBing is not rolling over and playing dead. It is fighting for your M, but you learn to do what works. When you have a W who is done with the M and she has brought a third party into the R, you can't fight for her like you did when you were single and you were in competition and the best man won. She is different now. Her attitudes and feelings for you and the M have changed.
In other words, she wants to feel free. The more you cramp her style (so to speak) by pressuring her, the faster you are pushing her toward the door.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
