When I am at home and around My WAW it is also tough to keep a PMA but TBH I just think that if I am around her and I am at home then she is not somewhere else with somebody else.
This is my chance to validate or empathize with my W if we actually interact.
I feel like if we are both there at any moment we may get one step closer to R. I know that sounds a bit silly but it keeps me positive and allows myself to think that I am doing something to try to save my M.
@Julie,
Just a quick question do you walk away from your H when he gets mean because you feel you might say something that will start an unwanted argument and it is better to walk away?
The reason I ask is, and I am totally guessing here, Maybe if you could stick around and realize that all WAS are going to react negatively towards the LBS. That way his meaness doesn't affect you as much and you may be able to validate and empathize with his position.
With the result being good because you Listened to him instead of tuning him out and validated his feelings.
I apologize if I am off base with my thoughts and I misunderstood what you were trying to say and offered unsolicited opinions.
Me 47/W 34 T 16 M 13 No kids BD 6/2013 W asked that I move out 6/2013 I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013 separate beds not much talking Served D Complaint 5/2014 W moved out 9/27/2014
