I gotta agree with the others. I've had my doubts about DB'ing but the pursuing I did for the first month before reading DR and joining the site went terrible. Everything I did turned on me and while if felt right...it wasn't.
And a confrontation can't go well. What would you imagine her saying? I can only see her being defensive or guilty feeling....guilt might sound right but just causes WAW to push away more that I have seen.
M: 43 W: 43 Married 6 yrs. T: 7 yrs. Son 20, 18, 17, 15 yrs. (w/ Autism), 12, 10