Separated and on a Walk

[paul19510]

Artsy yes I am doing ic. I just felt strange to like someone. I wasn't really attached per se. We really didn't know each other long. It just felt. Ice to be complimented and liked again. It made me feel nice in the middle of all of this stuff. I see why thst can be tempting. I will discuss with ic tomorrow.

Thsbks for checki g in o me wnd for thr valuable help.

[paul19510]

journal: I did what I needed to have a productive day and get done the things that I needed to. I went to the gym and worked out first thing. that helped to make me feel healthier and relieve my stress that I noted in the first post.

Sometime keeping your feet moving is all you have. I am having more contact with W in recent days over kids things. that may explain some of the mood changes I've had. Still a long way to go for detachment.

I know that I'm on the fence at the moment about whether to stand or not. I realize, that its not just the WAS that gets to decide. we have a choice too.

have a good evening.

[bluesgal]

Paul, I just realized you started a new thread. I have lots to catch up on. Hope all is well!

[LITB]

Paul,

Hope you are having a good day thus far. I believe you see your IC today.

One thing I have noticed about your threads, is that you do not take kindly to constructive criticism. When 25 challenged you, you snapped back at her. When Bond challenged you a couple of days ago, you responded with a justification for your actions. A thread or two back, I was direct with you in 2 of my post that were ignored.

I'm challenging you again to dig deep into why this is. I'd venture to guess your LL are words of affirmation. I know you specifically thanked someone for being there the whole time and being gentle. Those weren't the exact words. I read that as you not being appreciative of some of the more challenging posts. We are trying to help you. It isn't gonna be sunshine and rainbows all of the time.

Hopefully you haven't seen your IC yet, because I think this is an area that needs to be visited.

[labug]

I mistyped something in my last post which makes a huge difference:
"We talk a lot about our expectations of the WAS around being responsible for their "issues", it's now NOT our job to fix them, if they had only...

[paul19510]

LT thanks for tsking to to answer. I do apprecistr constructive critism. I do see more of the pattern you mention. I need to be aware of that and I thank you for pointing it out. It is/was not an intentional thing. I will speak eith my Ic about this today. As far as not answerinf s post, again thst was not intentional. I will look at this as well.

[paul19510]

Bug thanks for the correction

[LITB]

Paul,

I appreciate you responding to my post and I hope it helps you grow. At the end of the day, we all want to see success stories. Having to go through these situations sukk and are no joke. I know when emotions are involved, many times we can't see the forest for the trees.

Hope you had a great day.

[paul19510]

LT its been a great day. It ended with some revelations from my D 16 that her mom has been shredding me to people for years and lying to me about smoking and other things for years also. Interesting. Its a personi don't k mm ow and someone I'm not interested to know. We shall see what tommorrow brings

[paul19510]

LT I also want to clarify the post above. I wasn't kiddi g sbout itbeing a great day. I got a lot done at work and had a good time with my kids. Then the rest happened. It rewlly was a good day on balance.