Hi have been reading your thread off and on because the title describes my sitch as well. My h only talks about d in a vague distant way but he feels we are definitely separated.

I have no great advice just wanted to commiserate. I am sitting in a cafe because I couldn't bear the thought of goung home yet. Tonight is h night with s so I will plan on being home right before s goes to bed and then we will all head to our separate rooms. (And then I will come out and take care of all the animals!)

The only thing that helps is detachibg. It is still a work in progress. When ever h gets really mean I just tune hin out say "ok whatever" (to myself) and walk away. He actually has been a little nicer ever since he has seen that his tirades have no effect on me.

Good luck tonight

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15