So you're dating......good for you!

[CallaghanClown]

Today I found the OW's house keys in my H's car. Gulp....

I was really hurt and sad, almost crying for around an hour. It totally ruined my workout at the gym. But then I realised that he's keeping it secret. He's still texting other women. Still face booking other women. This girl is just a bandaid. Maybe it will be different when/if he announces he's with her. Maybe that's what he wanted, for me to find the keys and he wouldn't have to tell me....

I'm detached with love. I'm working on me. I'm not ready to date, not ready to force a divorce. I just need to look after me.

He's still a mess, I don't need that in my life right now.

I am struggling with his cake eating though. I just don't know whether to keep doing everything together, or whether to leave him alone with the kids. He invites me, expects me to come along all the time. I'm starting to arrange outside activities when he plans to be here, but I don't want to damage the reconnection that he's been building over the past few weeks.