WAW Said She's Done-pt.4- What Happened?

[tough spot]

I still think you need to decide if this is a deal breaker or not. If it is a deal breaker, then she has to stop or leave the house. That way she feels the brunt of the consequences of her actions.

Or, you stay quiet, knowing it is a deal breaker, in order to build your case for the law.

Or, you stay quiet, because you think everyone makes mistakes and this is just a big one your wife is making. However, you love her and are willing to forgive her.

If you don't feel that it is a mistake on her part and you aren't willing to forgive her, then you are not saying anything because of fear. Fear that your standing up for yourself/morals/feelings will drive your wife further away. If that happens, you are doing something for the wrong reasons and are being a doormat.

Make the decision. The agony you feel is in great part due to your indecision.