Thanks,

I needed that. Unfortunately I don't think it was and affair that triggered him asking for a divorce. It was that state of our marriage that triggered an affair, if there is one.

I am at the beginning of this so am so lost and empty. He told me he was going to file for divorce, left 5 days later, didn't want the kids to even know. Now I find myself wanting them to know so they understand why I feel the way I do...selfish right.

I will not tell them, it was his decision, he will at least have to be here for that pain.

J


Me-44 (45)
H- 50 (51)
M-'96

S-18(20)D-15(17)D-12(14)

BD Feb 2014 (he works overseas)
home Oct(sep rooms)
(EAs possible Pa's unconfirmed)
insists wants D through July 2015
no more talk of D since