Have you read Divorce Remedy? I suggest you apply the LRT.
I tried to read through your first post, but it is difficult for some of us to follow a day by day account when it's that much. You may have more responses if you shorten the length of your post and just tell the highlights.......at least till you get off moderation .
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!