It seems to me you still made a conscience choice to enter a marriage with the possibility, down the road, that this may happen. It's probably why you are at peace somewhat. It's very different, when while you were dating you were having sex all the time and great sex too, and you enter marriage, and you actually commit to a lifetime with the partner you have chose, that partner should not do a total 180 once they get what they wanted and shut down. That's kind of like false advertising. Now you are stuck in a deteriorating relationship and, when you have no financial stability, can't do nothing about it.
My situation is 11 yrs sexless and SHE then comes and wants a divorce. Sex is THE most important thing in a man's relationship. Not just for a release, but a physical relationship is necessary to establishing that bond and feeling that would have men commit to their woman like THEY would want. Not what we THINK they may want. Your romantic and cherishing nature would open the woman up for more physical relations which would open up your romantic nature and so on. This would be the opposite of a vicious cycle. I have read a lot of books on communication, sex, and divorce, and this is what i'm getting out of it.
The problem is to employ these communication techniques while you still have a relationship. In my case I didn't learn in time and now have a WAS as well and that's a whole different technique. I dream of the day I can use these communication skills on her. If it does end up to be someone else then they will benefit from my newfound knowledge.
Captain, if you are at peace with how things are, why don't you move back into the bedroom?
Me 43 W 43 S 10 (Special Needs) M: 14 yrs T: 18 yrs Bomb: 09/16/12 Filed for D: WHO KNOWS???
