I was here about 10 years ago, my husband came home, things were better for awhile, but stopped working on myself and here I am again.
Unfortunately it's easy to fall back into old habits. But think about what worked before, and do those things again! Try to make your changes stick this time.
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he was just home for 2 weeks and told me he was going to file for divorce.
He may have been having an affair while away, that's usually what triggers the sudden desire to push for D after time apart. Usually absence makes the heart grow fonder, so when the opposite happens there's often a reason for it.
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I have suggested many times that we go to counseling, he thinks its a waste of $$ because we know what our problems are but neither one of us is willing to change.
Don't push for MC anymore, things are beyond that doing any good. Traditional MC just does not work for a WAS. Consider a DB coach instead.
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I'm mad at myself for the way we left things when I dropped him at the airport.
No one thing triggers a WAS to leave, so don't beat yourself up over it.
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I want a chance to save my marriage but am afraid he really is done for good.
I have read so many reconciliation stories here in which the LBS at one time thought things were totally over. 25 is a frequent poster here and she and her H have been doing fantastic, and at one time she said she gave her M a 95% chance of failing. So don't give up hope, hold it in your heart for as long as you want. In the end it's YOUR choice when to quit hoping.
