Working on GAL. That's harder than I thought, too. Most of my few friends are husbands of her friends, who are in on her unhappiness, so I don't want to get into that friction, so I'm looking at building a whole new network of friends - not my thing, really. A lot of my hobbies were kind of introverted and tinkering or computer related, and that was a big complaint of wife's, so I'm trying to 180 that behavior. Getting out of the house away from the daggers is a good thing, though.
- I been working out for last 8 weeks and LOVING it. Down 18 pounds, 2 to go. Working on that 6 pack. - took up skiing again -- a big part of me that I had totally dropped because W didn't ski. In retro, shouldn't have done that -- "To thine own self be true." Wish kids would come more often, but they want to veg and play video games. But it's nice not having them set the pace when I go alone. And skiing single gives you that 5 minute speed-meet when you fill a chair with strangers. - looking online for a local club (book & wine, second language conversation) or maybe community service volunteer work. Still looking - want to find something that may give me some support down the road if possible.
And of course in exploring this, I realize that over the years of M, I had fallen into hobbies that while completely gratifying to me, kept me mostly at home, and would have appeared to my W to be, well, let me say, cerebral and boring.
Quite a learning experience, all this WAW stuff. Not at all enjoyable, but a learning experience nonetheless. Still feeling hopeless, but somewhat better today.
