She left - My Story, First Post

[gogofo]

Yesterday the W called and showed up at my work with our taxes to sign. Had a neutral talk about taxes and I decided to try to make some love bank deposits.

Asked about her classes and the next round of papers/assignments she has to complete and offered support with kids to allow her more time if needed. Trying to decrease her stress. I never talked once about me, my job, or how I feel.

Finally I have been working on some communication skills so I sent a follow up text thanking her for taking "HER" time to take care of taxes. It was a fairly neutral thank you, but I emphasized that she took her personal time to get them done. Time had been an issue with her and I and our schedules; also I have been trying to hit her love languages as I learn more about them.

I now know that one comment or action will not fix us, so I am slowly hoping to make love bank deposits when possible. Not trying to force conversation either, just feeling the natural flow of the interaction and working with it.

Right now I realize that neutral interactions are helpful to our situation. Baby steps...