Well, your friends here can only give advice based on what they read, so it's tough to really know.
I say be a great husband and father on your vacation. Let her see what she'd be giving up, them LRT. No contact. If she wants to discuss kids, then go through an intermediary. Enforce your boundaries. She should know that you want your M, but that what you have isn't what you want, and you can't live like that. If she misses what she had, perhaps she'll return. What she's doing now is deciding if the OM can fill your shoes and if he can, then she's gone. In the meantime, you continue to look unattractive to her, so being there may only push her further away.
