Your sitch sounds very similar to my own, is your wife going through perimenopause or menopause?
Originally Posted By: First
I tried being friendly and rational and disinterested and that does help, however I had a hard time when she moved temporarily to her friends for two weeks until the apartment became available today. It was tough seeing her so I asked for some time and separation. It just tears me up emotionally to see her. Is that wrong?
No, it's totally normal. We all go through a full range of emotions, it's basically the same as the grieving process when you lose a close loved one (Google "seven stages of grief" to get an idea of what you'll cycle through). Your emotions are yours and yours alone and there's nothing right or wrong about any of them, they just "are". Just learn to vent/ cry alone and show PMA around others (especially your W).
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I have talked to her about counseling and she is not opposed to it. I don’t want to push though and wonder when I should ask her to go to counseling. I can wait until she is ready.
Forget MC, it won't help, and might hurt things. Invest in a DB coach if you feel you need some counseling. MC should only be pursued if the WAS suggests it and is willing to set it up, but that comes much later.
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I work and caring for our daughter, cleaning the house and all the other chores take time.
That's great, but do it for you, not W. In her eyes anything you do is "too little, too late." Do 180's, but don't expect immediate results. It takes many, many months of changed behavior before a WAS will start to believe the changes.
