A smart move on your part to hold off on the response.
I just swiped this great quote from AS in Digger's thread that perfectly applies to your sitch with H:
Anyway, regarding your comment that your W hates you now because you filed for D, that's just WAS spew. Often when the LBS is proactive about something, the WAS expresses angry outrage over it. That's part of the roller coaster ride.
See? That ^^^ sums up quite nicely what your H is reacting to in regard to your filing and getting your own lawyer.
