Well first let me say good job on reading all those books, you've obviously taken this seriously and are working on yourself! And great work on quitting drinking too, sounds like that's healthy for you regardless of where your M goes.
Originally Posted By: Cnfused
She even gave me a hug when I left for work this morning. I don't let those things get me too excited or happy when it happens or too sad when they don't happen.
Good, MWD calls things like that "baby steps", they should be celebrated internally but don't have any expectations.
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I feel sorry for her that she is so confused about what she want's and know I can't do much or don't know what to do to help her move forward.
You're right, that's her journey to make and nothing you can do will help other than just giving her time and space.
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She charges items to her credit card that I basically pay each month. I told her I wanted to see what I was paying for. Needless to say she got pissed. Any thoughts on how to handle this sitch?
Well this is tricky. The two of you are still living together, so any debt she accumulates on her own card is still marital debt, so you're responsible for it as well. If you were separated I would say just quit paying her CC bills for her, but you're not S'd. If you think your W is spending recklessly and could harm your personal financial sitch, then consult a lawyer about what to do. You don't have to tell her you're talking to a L, just consult with one to see what your options are.
