Yes cycling of emotions is normal in this.

We talk a lot about our expectations of the WAS around being responsible for their "issues", it's now our job to fix them, if they had only...

We are responsible for our issues, it is our job to fix us. You sound a bit like you're circling, not cycling. What does Paul need to do to help Paul?

Artsy had some good suggestions.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss