Rebel without a clue

[prometheus]

Thanks for your questions and comments MrBond. Could you please expand upon the showing insecurities thing a little?

Why on earth would you tell her that? It shows your insecurities big time.

I told her that ^^^ because i wanted to be honest about where i was at. W had been asking for an update. I had renewed my resolve to stay after nearly taking an option on a room down the road (ie moving out for a while). I thought it was in the spirit of good communication to make that known, especially since...

Hi [wife],
I have been so selfish and I can see how hurt you are. I want to do my best to respect your wishes, so I have decided that the best way that I can begin to accommodate them is by agreeing to move out of our home. I will start to look for somewhere else to live.
One thing that I would ask though is that we can spend and share this christmas together.

That ^^^ was the last that W had heard from me on that subject. I had decided not to go and was informing her of my decision. That was on the 19th December, 2013.

Why do you keep poking the bear? Just stop bringing it up and start concentrating on your changes. Your fear is going to ruin your chances of reconciliation.

I guess i pressed her for feedback because i knew that there was more that she wanted to say. Our conversation was cut short. Also, W usually likes to check with her enablers and confidants before responding to me. The last i had heard from her was "you move out or we will". Maybe i was fishing. You are right though. I did not need to prompt her. Fear of the unknown potential? I will have a think about it. Thanks again for your thoughts.

My poking seems to have had some effect though. W brought stuff up last night to continue on from where we left off. More in my next post.