My ex just asked for the standard visitation. As uncomfortable as my kids were with OW and all the pain they were going through I wasn't going to push him for more time. He also is becoming if it is still convenient he will do it sort of Dad.
He does pay child support and that is about the only area I give him credit for. So women weren't out to screw over their ex's so much as the walk away spouse putting it to the left behind one.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory